I am woman

Freya and I don’t get along…at least certain aspects of Freya and I don’t get along. 
When I think of Freya, I think of all the energies she is that I am not. She is the counter to the energies of Frigg. She is seen by so many as the goddess of love and beauty and Frigg is completely overlooked. When I did my 30 Days of Frigg is when started to take issue with Freya, because so much information was about Freya and not about Frigg. 

But really, there isn’t that much information on Freya either. At least not when compared to Thor, Loki, Odin…

Historically, Frigg and Freya are both derived from Frija, proto-Germanic goddess. It would seem those following the Aesir interpreted her as Frigg and those following the Vanir interpreted her as Freya. When the clans came together, the two goddesses overlapped again, as they were once one entity. 

What drove me nuts and, frankly, pissed me off, was the idea that Freya was sexy and Frigg is not. Because Frigg is a mom and mom’s aren’t sexy. 


Frigg’s a MOLF. 

Freya uses sex to get what she wants.

Frigg doesn’t use sex, she enjoys it. 

So while I am much more aligned with Frigg, and while I still don’t want to embrace Freya as love/fertility/beauty, I am drawn to her as a warrior. 

That is one aspect Frigg and Freya don’t share. Frigg is strong, but in a different way. She stands up to Allfather when needed. She does all within her power to change the fate of Balder, even though she knew what would ultimately unfold for him. 

I have a temper, and I like to keep my temper in check. This is perhaps another issue I have with Freya. She is War. I cannot channel her for fear of losing my shit and going beserk. 

I feel more comfortable being a wife and mother than being a warrior. 

Most days. 

Some thoughts on Planned Parenthood funding

This past Wednesday, Congressional Democrats effectively stopped a bill that would strip PP of its government funding. 

This is a huge win for women everywhere. Yet, it’s not getting the attention it deserves. At least, I’m not seeing it anywhere. 

I was a patient at PP for 6 years, from age 17-22. I clearly remember, more than once, my step mom talking to someone, not knowing I was in earshot, and complaining about the extra cost of carrying an unnecessary dependent on her health plan. Before my parents split, my dad covered my insurance. That remained after they split. And when my dad remarried and left the corporate world, he went on his wife’s insurance. Per the divorce papers, so did I. I was covered bare minimally while they had Cadillac plans. My mom paid out of pocket for vision and dental. So when I became of age to be sexually active, I presumed that would be out of pocket as well. So I went to PP. I was seen for general feminine health and contraception. I was able to afford it myself out of pocket based on PP’s sliding scale. Me and so many others. 

These are the types of services that make up the predominant patient care. Only 3% of services rendered are abortion services. These are the types of services that legally must be paid for by federal funds. It’s actually illegal to use those funds for abortions. 

This isn’t to say that I’m not Pro-Choice, because I am. As a mother…as a pregnant woman…as a woman who personally battled infertility, I am still Pro-Choice. 


I am pro your choice of having as many children as you can afford. I am pro your choice to not have any children. I am pro your choice for whatever method of contraception works for you. It’s simply a live and let live concept: you do you, I’ll do me, and we’re all good. 

This is not to say I am anti-abortion either. I have read stories of situations where the child had a terminal illness, and the family decided to abort the pregnancy. I have also read horror stories of families stuck in states where these ridiculous abortion laws exist and the family was not able to abort the pregnancy. The baby died in utereo and the woman had to birth what would have been her child. Neither situation is desirable, but the decision should be left between a woman and her doctor. 

  For very selfish, personal reasons, I am Pro-Choice. This is a slippery slope. Ban one medical procedure and a can of worms is opened to ban others. Tubal ligation for example. That’s a woman choosing whether or not to have children. But it’s not in the Abrahamic deity’s “plan” therefore it’s “wrong”. Infertility treatment would also be a problem as embryos are destroyed if they are not used. 

My biggest issue with this whole thing is people who are “Pro-Life” because they’re so full of horse shit it’s coming out of their ears. 

You’re not pro-life. You don’t want social programs that support children. You are anti-abortion because you don’t know all of the facts. You’re anti-abortion because you listen to the Fox “news” talking heads and repeat whatever shit they spew at you. 

You want to consider yourself pro-life, then you would help children who are here, not force folks who cannot properly raise up a human to do so and then abandon the tiny human and the now parents who didn’t want/can’t care for him in the first place. You would do so much more than fight against abortion. You would fight for life after birth as well. 

What we need is to empower women AND men with *REAL* sexual health education and allow access to contraception. 

Abortion isn’t going anywhere. Remember “Dirty Dancing?” Penny got a botched abortion and Jerry Orbach had to go in and save her from bleeding to death? My mom used to tell me that while she isn’t a supporter of abortion, she remembers the alternative: to have women use coat hangers themselves or to see back alley low lifes. The act isn’t going away. To turn over the laws in such a way that it makes it all but impossible to safely perform is irresponsible and will hurt the citizenship in a profound way. 

We all know this stems from certain groups wishing to push their personal religious beliefs onto all of us as a whole. 

And about those religious beliefs…

One more thing before I totally get off my soapbox: 


Reclaiming of the Witch

Thanks to Elfkat, I came across this great article about the rise in women who refer to themselves at Witch. <raises hand>

A few of my favorite tidbits:

It was the strangest thing: simply by calling herself a witch in public, [Azealia] Banks had managed to evoke real fear. Rightwingers treated her as if she were actually planning to blight crops and hex her enemies, all the while claiming that they didn’t believe in witchcraft.

Azealia, a rapper, tweeted about being a Witch because her ancestors (African slaves) were magic and had magic before they were converted. She challenged folks to think about where their belief system comes from. At some point in their lives, African Americans who were brought to this country against their will were converted, perhaps forcibly, into a new faith. That faith was then passed down from parents (blood or foster as children were often sold away) and is embedded into much of the Black community today. Azealia’s whole point is she is reclaiming the traditions of her ancestors, which has a strong link to magick. What made me giggle was the Right wing knee-jerk fear reaction in conjunction with the claim that witches aren’t real. So they are afraid of something they simultaneously deny? Hehe

There’s also the pull of the taboo, of being a woman who does what she’s not supposed to: “It feels incredible to use all the aspects of being a woman which the dominant culture considers to be signs of weakness, like emotional sensitivity or a menstrual cycle, as tools when you are giving a reading or doing a spell,” says Marty Windahl, proprietor of Tarotscopes. “This is really the heart of being a witch for me, turning everything on its head. That, and making treasure of trash.”

I will never forget, one year at my second high school, and my first strong Pagan year, I was relishing in the power of being female. Namely, the power of menstruation. I was relishing in what menstruation really meant- the fact that I could create life, and carry life and nourish life. I started to get offended by menstruation product commercials advertising it as a sign of weakness, as something to be ashamed of. Of something that isn’t innately powerful and beautiful for what it means. I’m still unnerved when I hear women, especially young women, complain about her period and how awful it is and how much they hate to be a female because they have to deal with their periods. They don’t understand the power and the beauty that this means, that being a woman means.

It’s tempting to write all this off as fluffy woo-woo stuff (a trivialization of which Starhawk is well aware: “We’re no more nutty than most religions,” she says, “and probably a lot less nutty than some”). But the politics are there, and they hold up; mixed in with the spells and rituals of The Spiral Dance, you will find meditations on sexual violence, ecology and anarchist group building, and thoughts on how men can overcome patriarchal conditioning in order to participate effectively in leftwing activism.

Woman = power. Woman = Witch = POWER. And in our patriarchal society, that power is something to be feared.