Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end
Change is hard. It is messy. But it is necessary. And it is natural.
The only constant in life is that it will change.
This week saw a lot of changes- graduation, for one. Students that I have worked with for a number of years have left the school where I am employed and are moving on to the next phase of their lives.
Witchlette is becoming bigger and more mature every day. This is a wonderful, awe-inspiring change to see. She is becoming more independent. Her little life is blossoming and it is amazing in every definition of the word.
But change is scary. It is downright terrifying. Better the devil you know than the one you don’t. It can’t get any worse…until it does. What we can’t see around the corner keeps us complacent in ways that are ultimately unhealthy. Jobs, relationships (romantic or otherwise)…
Relationships is a tough one. Think about it- no marriage ever ends happily. Every marriage ends, but it will never end with smiles. My grandparents were married forever. Then their marriage ended with my grandfather’s death. It is the more socially acceptable way for a marriage to end, but it doesn’t make it any easier. My relationship with my grandfather ended the same way- with his death. He was here for quite a while before I made my appearance, and we had many great years with each other’s company. I can only hope that Hubby and I continue the way we are going and, although it will not be a happy change, our marriage will end when we are both well into our crone years and one of us passes over to the other side. Take Witchlette: her joining our lives was the happiest change we’ve ever been through. Ultimately, we should one day, far far far into the future, leave her life. A change. An ending to a relationship. Not a happy one, but a natural one all the same.
Vocations, a relationship between a worker and an establishment, is like any other relationship. Eventually, there will be an end. The worker will retire and leave the workplace down a man with that specific skillset. The establishment will close and leave a number of workers without employment. A worker can change paths to fit personal growth- again, leaving the estanlishmemt without the talent they once brought to the table. The establishment can terminate the worker, leaving the worker without employment. In any of the above scenarios, someone is going to feel the negative side of change. And, in all of the examples, there is fear involved as well. When the workers no longer work for that establishment…what’s next? Where will they work? What will they do? They thought boss they just had was a tyrant, but he was nothing compared to the new person under whom they are working.
The grass isn’t always greener.
But is isn’t always dead, either.
And making one change doesn’t mean the resulting situation is permanent.
Taking risks is what makes life exciting- what makes life worth living.
But you have to be willing to take the leap. To come to the end of one path and begin anew, with the acknowledgement that eventually, the new one will also end- with another new one just behind it.