First, I want to share a post from Pagan Dad:
I put out a call for article ideas yesterday on my Facebook page and while there were many ideas, some of them have already been talked about on my blog. Part of the problem with my years of archives of posts is that things get lost in there. But there is one that I wanted to talk about today.
Whether or not we should tell our children about Santa and the whole idea of him bringing gifts on Yule/Christmas. The parent was worried about lying to our kids, even though we tell them not lie ourselves.
Yet as I sit down to write this I’m having a hard time deciding on the appropriate course of action would be. But I can say that we still talk about Santa and about La Befana, the Italian Christmas Witch. Although my oldest has reached the point many years ago, that she doesn’t believe she has been forbidden from telling her sister. Of course now her sister, our youngest, is growing up (too fast mind you) and starting to question. Although she told us, very emphatically that Santa is really the Holly King just this past week.
So for us I don’t see the harm in it. There is a difference in lying for gain and to avoid trouble (things our kids get in trouble for) and telling a little white lie to allow our children to grow up with a sense of wonder. And besides do we want our children to be both that “Pagan kid” and the kid who tells everyone that Santa isn’t real? Because unless we raise them in a bubble then they are going to find out about the mythical creatures and beings that we believe and honor during the holidays.
Now all of this being said, there is no harm in telling your kids that Santa really is the Holly King. That way when they reach that age when they stop believing then they can still honor the Holly King for the season.
In an earlier post, I described how Hubby and I do gifts for each other on Yule (the morning or evening of the second day). We do holiday gifts with other family members on the 25th. The two of us have discussed doing Santa presents for our future children, and that those gifts would also be on the 25th. That way, like Pagan Dad says, our kids aren’t the non-Christian weirdos AND the kids who don’t have Santa. (For the record, I know many, many Jewish families who include Santa for the sake of their kids feeling part of the larger materialist, gift-driven majority). Besides, as I got older, I realized my mom was Santa. I also realized that the Spirit of Santa is the goodness of the holidays; the way people go above and beyond in their charitable donations this one time of year.
After reading Pagan Dad’s post, I like the idea of referencing Santa as the Holy King, to give him a more firm foundation in our tradition. The only issue I have with that, is what figure would then represent the Oak King in the summer?